Slow down.
You don’t have to answer every “hey.”
You don’t have to turn every compliment into a connection.
Because not every spark is meant to become a fire.
You see, the “talking stage” has become the place where too many hearts get tangled too soon.
Where emotions run faster than discernment,
and curiosity drowns out conviction.
But Proverbs 19:2 reminds us, “Desire without knowledge is not good, how much more will hasty feet miss the way!”
When you rush into talking, you risk skipping the stage of seeing.
Seeing who they are beyond their charm,
beyond the late-night conversations and good morning texts.
You miss the quiet signs that whisper truth louder than words.
The talking stage isn’t meant to be a trial run for forever,
it’s meant to be a test of purpose alignment.
But if you rush, you confuse chemistry with clarity.
You start justifying red flags instead of observing them.
Let me tell you something,
You don’t owe anyone instant access to your peace.
You are not rude for taking time to pray,
to pause,
to discern if this connection has God’s fingerprint or just emotional glitter.
In this world of fast replies and instant feelings,
patience has become a rare form of wisdom.
But the Bible says, “Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.”, James 1:19.
And I’ll add, be slow to attach.
Because attachment without understanding births confusion.
Take your time to observe.
How do they talk about others?
Do they honor boundaries?
Do they love God, or do they love the idea of someone who loves God?
These are the quiet tests that protect your heart before it’s asked for.
The truth is,
If someone gets impatient with your process of discernment,
they were never meant to handle your depth.
Love that’s rushed rarely lasts,
but love that’s rooted always grows.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “To everything there is a season.”
And that includes conversation.
Some people are meant for a chat, not a chapter.
Some “talking stages” are just reminders that you still have healing left to do.
So wait.
Not with fear, but with faith.
Wait until you can hear God’s “yes” without your emotions interrupting.
Wait until peace, not pressure, leads your heart.
Because real love doesn’t need to rush.
It recognizes you’re worth the wait, even in conversation.
And when the right one comes,
the talking stage won’t feel like a guessing game,
it’ll feel like clarity.
So guard your heart.
Don’t rush what Heaven is still arranging.
The right voice will meet you at the right time,
and this time, you won’t have to question if it’s real,
because peace will answer for you.
Jombo
